The process of acquisition and domain of the emotion through intelligence is in the beginning of it knows you it exactly you. It is a search for the self-knowledge. To have autoconscincia means to recognize and to understand our thoughts, feelings and action, establishing a productive relation between these links so that favorable reactions are produced. How to use Emotional Intelligence in the Education? As Gottman (2001) exists some steps to be followed, between which: To perceive the emotions of the child; To recognize the emotion as a chance of privacy and learning; To hear with empatia; To help the child to identify and to nominate its emotions, e; To teach the limits and, at the same time, to help the child to decide its problems: to teach limits; to identify objectives; to look possible solutions; to evaluate proposals of solutions based on the values of its family; to help the child to choose a solution. To perceive the emotions of the child: to be able to perceive the emotions of its children, you it must become emotionally conscientious, that is, to have the capacity to recognize and to identify to the proper emotions and the proper feelings and to perceive the emotions of the other. Parents who perceive its proper emotions can use sensitivity to syntonize the feelings of its children. When you if comove because of its son, when she knows what it is feeling, you is having empatia, that is the base of the emotional work. From the moment that you of the importance to the feelings of its children, you conquest the confidence of them and then you obtain he guides it. To recognize the emotion as a chance of privacy and learning: the negative experiences can be excellent chances to show empatia, to gain privacy and power to teach ways to them to deal with the feelings.
Plato, in a metaphor, compares the human being with a covered cart, where the horses are the instincts. They pull the covered cart, but each one of them wants the proper accomplishment. The coachman (the reason) sees for where the horses must go, and, with the reins (the will) it leads, them to the desired direction. Understanding itself it exempts will as the conscientious will of I, consider the following question: Conscientious I, for intermediary of the free will, am capable to intervene with the trajectory of our life and to modify our future? He comments its reply. The development of the personality is something complex and incrivelmente subject to influences extremely varied, remaining to the human being a narrow band of maneuver and possibilities of decision, ahead them powerful forces moulders of its character. However, this limited capacity is enough to determine if somebody mainly wants to be something different of what it is, if he will not be satisfied I obtain same. In the adolescence I would have to be reasonable alicerado. In the adult life, it would have to be structuralized to such point that it would have to assume fully the capacity of leadership of the proper one to be.
The great problem is that the majority of the people does not develop one critical I, discerning, coherent, capable to take certain decisions in the alias process. If I to continue running away from its responsibilities and if not to fortify the point to accept on the proper coasts the weight that fits to it to load, never will become the author of its proper history (CURY, 2004). In accordance with the Theory of Multifocal Intelligence, I represent our critical conscience, our capacity to decide, constituting, therefore our identity. I am our capacity to analyze the situations, to doubt, to criticize, to make choices, to exert the free will, to correct routes, to establish goals, to manage the emotions and to govern the thoughts. One weak I, without structure and maturity, am unsafe, unstable, impulsive, anxious, enslaved drifter, of the thoughts and the destructive emotions. The great discovery of life is to perceive that you only control its life. If to want to change its situation, you will have that to move. Everything what to come to happen or with you will not depend on you yourselves and its decisions.
You are who of the last a word on you yourselves. You are where she is because of what she made or she left to make. The function of the free-will is to make of the man, not it puppet of the destination, but the conductor of the personal constructive life where the covered ways if add the experiences and points of teachings. Therefore, conscientious I, for intermediary of the free will, am capable to intervene with our life and to modify our future.